لایب سان

1Introduction 1.1 Trauma Work in Coaching Panta rhei – Everything flows. Heraclitus of Ephesus When the philosopher Heraclitus speaks of the fact that we cannot step into the same river twice, his words can remind us of the continuity and dynamics of change. The flow of life always brings new and familiar situations we must face in our private or professional everyday life. Economic, technical, and social changes, as well as crises and strokes of fate, give our environment a new face at any time and demand new reactions. Especially in the economy, leaders and employees are challenged more than ever due to globalization, digitalization, and high workload. To avoid losing oneself in this flow as a driven person or even going under, a human being needs stability and firmness. At the same time, however, they must also remain adaptable to react flexibly to incoming situations. Thus, life runs within this polarity between stability and flexibility. Development Approach—The Stable Center Therefore, a person who does not lose themself needs a stable center in which they can rest as a personality and withstand the external pressures of the environ- ment in inner balance. This center, at peace within itself, is at the same time also flexible and receptive to impulses from fellow human beings and can use these for its constant renewal and further development. Especially in the professional environment, the abilities to take criticism, give and receive feedback, and inno- vate are among the essential qualifications of a thriving leadership culture. Most of the topics we are confronted with as coaches can be traced back to a blockage or a substantial imbalance within the aforementioned field of tension between

Contents 1 Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 1.1 Trauma Work in Coaching . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 1.2 Trauma as Existential Limit-Experience . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 1.3 How Can the Soul Be Experienced? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 1.4 Trauma Work as a Path of Self-Knowledge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18 2 Splits in the Soul and Their Consequences . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 2.1 There Is No Such Thing as the Ideal Unity of the Soul . . . . . . . 21 2.2 Birth as the First Existential Limit-Experience . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 2.3 Splitting of the Soul . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 2.4 Healthy Qualities . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 2.4.1 The Vital Force of the Instincts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 2.4.2 The Relationship Level as the Basis of Healthy Qualities . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 2.4.3 Healthy Qualities as a Healthy Potential . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 2.5 Levels of Splitting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 2.5.1 A Unity—Body, Mind, and Soul . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 2.5.2 Splitting at the Level of the Soft Tissue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 2.5.3 Splitting in the Brain Centers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 2.5.4 The Weighty Phrase as an Unconscious Leitmotif . . . . . 33 2.5.5 Compensatory Qualities of the Mind . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36 2.6 The Split Soul and Its Dynamics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37 2.6.1 The Compulsion of Repetition as an Attempt to Heal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38 2.6.2 The Drawing Force of the Unconscious Will . . . . . . . . . . 39 vii viii Contents 2.6.3 The Split Takes Precedence—The Switchman in the Unconscious . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 2.6.4 “Away from” Movement . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 2.6.5 Projections and Deficits . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 2.6.6 The Wheel of Projections . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 2.6.7 Resistance—Or the Rationale of Repression . . . . . . . . . . 48 2.6.8 Perpetrator-Victim Dynamics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 2.7 Transgenerational Implications of Existential Limit-Experiences . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 2.7.1 Trauma Chaining in the Family System . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 2.7.2 Hereditary and Compulsive Fate . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54 2.7.3 COEX—System of Condensed Experience . . . . . . . . . . . 54 2.7.4 Transgenerational Existential Limit-Experience (T—E.L.E) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55 2.7.5 Causes of Trauma Within the Family System . . . . . . . . . 57 2.7.6 The Force of Transgenerational Repression . . . . . . . . . . . 59 2.7.7 COEX Exemplified by the World Wars . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60 2.7.8 The Three Ranks of Survival Structures . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62 2.8 The Limits of Consciousness—The Buoy Parable . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 2.9 Hologram—Conservation of Momentum in the System . . . . . . . 67 References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70 3 Implications of the Existential Limit-Experience in Business . . . . . . 71 3.1 Three Levels of Trauma and Its Consequences . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71 3.2 Psychic Discernment in Coaching . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 73 3.3 Implications of the Consequences of Trauma . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 76 3.3.1 Implications in Private Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 76 3.3.2 Implications in the Professional Environment . . . . . . . . . 77 3.4 Resistance and Its Implications in Business . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 3.5 Role and Identity as a Leader . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 3.6 Individual Creativity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 84 3.7 The Stifling of Creativity in the Company—A Typified Scenario . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 Reference . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89 4 Trauma Work for a Stable Center in the Professional Environment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91 4.1 Trauma Work as a Path of Insight . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91 4.2 Genesis of the Healthy Ego . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 92 4.3 Trauma Work Is Resource Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Contents ix 4.4 Disentanglement from Hereditary and Compulsive Fate . . . . . . . 96 4.5 New Qualities of a Leadership Culture . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 102 4.5.1 Authenticity and Charisma as a Fruit of Conscious Identity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 102 4.5.2 Objectivity and Being in Touch with Reality . . . . . . . . . . 103 4.5.3 Discernment as Protection Against Manipulation . . . . . . 104 4.5.4 Healthy Use of Power . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105 4.6 Coaching in Practice—Movement Has Precedence . . . . . . . . . . . 106 References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 5 Methods . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 5.1 Methods and Their Interaction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 5.2 Bodywork . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 5.3 EMI—Eye Movement Integration . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 5.3.1 EMI—Basics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 5.3.2 EMI in the Context of Trauma Constellation Work . . . . 119 5.4 Body-Oriented Trauma Constellation Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 5.4.1 Basics of Body-Oriented Trauma Constellation Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121 5.4.2 Phenomenological Approach . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 5.4.3 Way of Thinking Determines Perception . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 5.4.4 Context of Origin . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 124 5.4.5 Intervention . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 5.4.6 Double Focus . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125 5.4.7 Disidentification . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 126 5.4.8 Excursus: Organizational Constellations as a Management Tool . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127 5.5 Voice Dialogue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 128 5.5.1 The Inner Shapes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 5.5.2 Voice Dialogue as a Differentiation Method . . . . . . . . . . 131 5.5.3 The Art of Dialogical Togetherness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 132 5.5.4 Resistance in Voice Dialogue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 132 5.5.5 The Mirroring Quality of Dialogical Togetherness . . . . . 133 5.5.6 The Manifestation of Unconscious Main Tendencies of Inner Shapes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 134 5.5.7 Voice Dialogue as a Modern Coaching Method . . . . . . . 135 5.6 Pontifex Oppositorum as Induction of Healthy Qualities . . . . . . 136 References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 139 x Contents 6 Practical Guidelines for Trauma Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 6.1 Winning Clients for Trauma Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 6.1.1 Appreciation of the Survival Structure . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141 6.1.2 The Primacy of the Survival Structure . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 142 6.1.3 Taking up the Healing Impulse of the Traumatized Soul . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 143 6.1.4 Presenting Openly the Topic of Trauma Work . . . . . . . . . 144 6.1.5 Clearly Communicating the Benefits of the Work . . . . . . 144 6.1.6 Ten Practical Aspects of Trauma Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 145 6.2 Pros and Cons of Trauma Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 147 6.3 Responsibility and Aftercare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149 References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 150 7 Case Studies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 151 7.1 Case Study: ‘The Common Thread Is Missing’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 151 7.2 Case Study: ‘It’s All Far Too Easy!’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 154 7.3 Case Study: ‘For the Sake of Peace’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157 7.4 Case Study: ‘Clarity Before Harmony’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 159 7.5 Case Study: ‘I’m Here Too!’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 161 7.6 Case Study: ‘Don’t Become an Ice-Cold Stone’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . 163 7.7 Case Study: ‘I’m Not up for Sales’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 167 7.8 Case Study: ‘My Unwillingness’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 171 7.9 Case Study: ‘Committed to Higher Things’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 172 7.10 Case Study: ‘No Sex in Marriage’ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 175 References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 177 Glossary of Terms . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 179

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